By Josselyn Tarazona
From a young age I had always dreamed of having a family. I remember planning my life since I was in high school, thinking that by the age of 24 I would have finish my studies and being married by the age of 25 and so the following years I could be ready to have babies. Well in reality things are not going as planned well at least not all of them. I am currently studying for an undergraduate degree and still got about a year before I finish, that will be if I decide not to go for a postgraduate study, meaning that I would probably not finish my education until I reach to 29 years old… Saying this, last year my partner and I got married and we are both in a happy and solid relationship. We have talked about starting a family already and we are both happy with the idea but I still feel that I don’t have the stability needed to have children yet. As mentioned before I am still studying and trying to set a career path that will guide me to my personal and professional development. So while I am figuring out life I am also feeling anxious and a bit panicky because I am not far to my 30’s and as the old saying, “starting to think about the clock ticking”…. So I’ve done some research about some facts about women, age and fertility and found some information stating that a woman’s fertility starts to decline in her early 30s, with the declining speeding up after 35. At 40 a woman only has a 5% chance of becoming pregnant in any month. This is because a woman is born with all the eggs she is going to have in her lifetime. As she ages her eggs age with her, decreasing in quality and number (Now I understand the clock ticking phrase). However, Dr. Starck states,” many women in these advance maternal age groups will do just great,” “While we do watch them more carefully, we don’t want people to fear that they absolutely can’t and shouldn’t get pregnant after age 35. It’s not an absolute risk, it’s a relative risk.” Coming from a large Peruvian family, you are expected to start a family as soon as you get married and I guess unconsciously I have that pressure in my head to follow the tradition and family expectations. Of course everyone is different and you have to make the decisions that you think is best for you. Remember there are hundreds if not thousands of women in the same position. Also now there are options to help in case of fertility problems. My husband and I have talked about each scenario and have come to think about adopting or fostering if it was ever to be our case. Until then we are still having some growing up to do for us but we’re enthusiastic about the journey ahead.
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Fontana Di TreviThis is one of the best pictures taken during our time in Rome :)
Having and stressful couple of months with work and university commitments, Sonny and I were wondering of going somewhere for a short weekend away. Somewhere sunny with loads of cultural information and somewhere we have never been before and immediately Rome came to mind!! Rome was definitely the best decision made to fulfil our expectations. It's a great city, weather was great and the food there is delish!!. Pretty much cover the whole package we were looking for. So we took our flight from Glasgow directly to Rome. It was our first time visiting Rome so were not sure what to expect. We stayed at a nice traditional Italian hotel called Cilicia, which was about 30mins walking distance from the main city. Our hotel was great, we were surrounded by locals, not many people there spoke English much, so it was a good way to practice a bit of the language. We spent most days walking to places, normally would have lunch somewhere around we were staying as the prices around there were 40% cheaper, compared to what you pay in the city centre and since we were not sure where to get tickets for the bus, opted to walk. This was the best way to see all touristic areas in Rome, so would definitely recommend it to anyone that is planning to go to Rome, bring your trainers, phone and a map!!!. In our last day of our trip we managed to work out how to get the buses lol, which was quite easy if we knew were we were going in the first place, but things that you learned as you go along. Things to see and do My favourite place in Rome would definitely be Fontana de Trevi, but be aware most restaurant around there are pricey so would defy recommend to walk a bit from there and you will find some nice Italian restaurants with affordable prices. Next spot to visit is the Spanish Steps, not far from there is another touristic place called Piazza de Popolo. Take a trip to the Vatican and next to it, if you got time visit Basilica St. Peter. On our way back to the hotel we would walk along Piazza Venezia then head to the Colosseum, if you walk around there in the evenings you will get stunning photographs. Tips: Bus or metro tickets (biglietto) can be purchased from shops called Tobacco (tabacchi) in Rome, you could simply look for the big "T" sign . Those tickets need to be purchased in advance as bus drivers do not sell tickets onboard. Sometimes you could purchase tickets at newsstands and in machines at some bus stops and in all metro stations. Penalties: If caught without a ticket, you will be fined by a bus inspector who hops on and off buses at random. If caught, you’ll pay €51 (if you pay on the spot) or €101 (if you pay later). It may seem like they never check tickets, but believe me they do. So better be safe than sorry! Ticket prices A single ticket costs €1 and is good for 75 minutes on buses and trams and one trip on the metro line. If you plan to ride public transportation all day, consider buying a biglietto giornaliero (a day ticket) for €4. A weekly pass (biglietto or tessera settimanale) costs €16 and is good for unlimited use on the buses, trams and metro lines for one week. Note: Keep in mind when buying your tickets that a good chunk of the sights you’ll be seeing can be covered on foot as most of them are located in the centro storico (the historic city center). Important: You must validate your tickets once you are on the bus or tram. Stick your ticket into the little yellow machine on the bus or tram. It will print the expiration time on your ticket, then spit it back out. If you fail to validate your ticket, you can be slapped with that hefty little fine mentioned above. It's crazy to see how fast all these years have gone, because it feels like it was yesterday when I first met Michael at Kelburn Festival in Scotland, and 3 years later we are here starting a new path in our lives. In August 2016 we organised a little gathering with friends and family in Edinburgh. Unfortunately my family in Peru could not take part in the celebrations, due to the distance and jobs commitments, but it is from there that we decided to organize our second wedding in my homeland.
Organising a wedding from the other side of the world was not an easy job at all. But as any other multitasking woman manage to do it, this could not have done on my own, thankfully I had the help of family, friends and the venue coordinator, the lovely Vanessa who helped me organised this magical day!! The first picture was the wedding in Peru!!! |
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