By Josselyn Tarazona
From a young age I had always dreamed of having a family. I remember planning my life since I was in high school, thinking that by the age of 24 I would have finish my studies and being married by the age of 25 and so the following years I could be ready to have babies. Well in reality things are not going as planned well at least not all of them. I am currently studying for an undergraduate degree and still got about a year before I finish, that will be if I decide not to go for a postgraduate study, meaning that I would probably not finish my education until I reach to 29 years old… Saying this, last year my partner and I got married and we are both in a happy and solid relationship. We have talked about starting a family already and we are both happy with the idea but I still feel that I don’t have the stability needed to have children yet. As mentioned before I am still studying and trying to set a career path that will guide me to my personal and professional development. So while I am figuring out life I am also feeling anxious and a bit panicky because I am not far to my 30’s and as the old saying, “starting to think about the clock ticking”…. So I’ve done some research about some facts about women, age and fertility and found some information stating that a woman’s fertility starts to decline in her early 30s, with the declining speeding up after 35. At 40 a woman only has a 5% chance of becoming pregnant in any month. This is because a woman is born with all the eggs she is going to have in her lifetime. As she ages her eggs age with her, decreasing in quality and number (Now I understand the clock ticking phrase). However, Dr. Starck states,” many women in these advance maternal age groups will do just great,” “While we do watch them more carefully, we don’t want people to fear that they absolutely can’t and shouldn’t get pregnant after age 35. It’s not an absolute risk, it’s a relative risk.” Coming from a large Peruvian family, you are expected to start a family as soon as you get married and I guess unconsciously I have that pressure in my head to follow the tradition and family expectations. Of course everyone is different and you have to make the decisions that you think is best for you. Remember there are hundreds if not thousands of women in the same position. Also now there are options to help in case of fertility problems. My husband and I have talked about each scenario and have come to think about adopting or fostering if it was ever to be our case. Until then we are still having some growing up to do for us but we’re enthusiastic about the journey ahead.
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